Why Desire Is Fragile
Sexual Desire Sexual desire, arousal and lust are powerful and alluring, so why is desire fragile? Whether one believes one’s life to be erotically blessed and indulged, or deprived and wounded, it’s hard not to see that desire (and arousal) is still one of the most robust ways to feel ‘alive’ – or ‘dead.’ Also […]
Some Thoughts On Agreements
My relationship and couples clients know that I usually explore how they “agree”. As a description of therapy, ‘finding agreements’ may sound rudimentary or simplistic. It may be confused with mediation and negotiation. One party might think that finding agreement means somebody’s got to sell themselves out. I believe the truth is very different. Helping […]
Skills Before Tools
When I meet couples for the first appointment, one partner often describes his or her therapeutic goals like this: “We just need some tools to help us with our communication”. Couples Use Tools To Practice Skills I’ve asked many couples clients what they mean by a “tool.” However it’s described, they are referring to something outside of […]
Who’s Afraid Of Couples Therapy?
This attention grabbing title (at least for clients and therapists) is for my current continuing education program. It’s a group of eight interviews, with Q&A, with some of the top practitioners in the couples therapy field, with some emphasis on sexuality. The series is sponsored by Psychotherapy Networker, to whom I give credit for innovative professional education offerings. […]