Kink-identified people

Kink expresses the part of human sexuality that’s driven by the imagination, expressing fundamental parts of self. 

Eros & Eroticism

Eros is a term for sexual imagination. Eros includes regular, occasional or fantasized experiences, at a level that over time can affect a core personal or relational identity.

Eroticism is about wanting these experiences (or wanting to want). It’s desire fed by curiosity and exploration, expanding or unifying mind-body connection. It offers freedoms and meaningful challenges. It can reshape personal identities.

Eroticism accelerates relationship development because desires always differ in some significant way(s). The differences drive relationships forward, sometimes re-shaping them. 

25+ years experience

For over 25 years, I’ve  worked with erotically diverse, sexual minority and transgender clients. Most often they see their kink or transitions as a resource, not the problem requiring therapy. Yet it’s still a road of self-discovery that can have its rites of passage.

Kink journeys

My clients may be actively discovering their kink identity, or experienced kink practitioners and community educators. The journeys often heal – and become a part of adult personal development. The rewards also involve risk. 

Kink-proficient therapy

People need kink-proficient therapists so that this key part of their identities can be accurately seen, affirmed or assisted by informed perspectives. The therapist must be able to focus on the client’s personal experience, without needing basic education about the kink itself.

Minority stress

Erotic, gender and relational freedoms come with minority stresses, especially for people of color. The sex-negative, mono-normative (puritanically-based) oppression of social, political and legal systems is connected to other forms of societal power, and therefore potentially abusive of that force..

Kink & non-monogamy

Many kinky clients also need a therapist who’s proficient in non-monogamous relationship work. There’s considerable overlap and intersection between kink and non-monogamous practices, communities and cultures.