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Narratives, Part 7

Let’s look at different narratives here in Part 7. Each creates a tension that frames an alternate version of reality turned on its head. Normal social rules are suspended. Adults can creatively seek out these experiences, wanting to feel alive and free. Keeping it brief I’m focusing on one and

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Comparing and competing

A brief break from the Narratives series to cover an important point about growth in committed relationships. It’s about relationship regression. Erotic push Erotic narratives push personal growth. Pushing personal growth means that regressions or setbacks will occur. People who push forward often get anxious (and try to manage it).

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Narratives, Part 6

I’ve been mapping out how erotic templates build into erotic narratives in relationships for a long time. One way to start is looking at narratives connected to erotic arousal. Before reviewing some better known erotic narratives, it helps to ask: what makes any narrative tick? Tension An erotic narrative contains

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Narratives, Part 3

Templates are like building blocks. They give people a way to understand and build personal and mutual narratives. Narratives can play out in various lengths of time, from minutes to years. They tend to make use of the same or similar templates over time. So in that way they can

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Narratives, Part 2

How narratives are formed Erotic narratives are not necessarily in story form (beginning-middle-end, etc.) The erotic doesn’t come from a simple, linear, logical or sequential place. And it doesn’t necessarily take a fixed shape. To be continued… Starting with clues Mystery is a well-established part of the DNA of erotic

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