Resilient Vision: To Recover From An Affair
A Vision Of Resilient: Recover From An Affair Resilient vision of Monogamy: Monogamous couples who decide to recover from an affair embark on a jointly heroic journey. They will trade pain and complexity for growth and a remarkable slice of wisdom. They give up the mutual accusations. Partners stop taking the other’s affairs as a reflection on their […]
Can We Master Jealousy?
Therapy For Jealousy As a relationship therapist, I want to find ways that my clients can understand and master their jealousy, reducing the damage it can cause, and facilitating a process of personal and relational development. Jealousy is a stressful signal that partner differentiation and development in both could take place. At various points in this post, I describe ways of thinking […]
Some Thoughts On Agreements
My relationship and couples clients know that I usually explore how they “agree”. As a description of therapy, ‘finding agreements’ may sound rudimentary or simplistic. It may be confused with mediation and negotiation. One party might think that finding agreement means somebody’s got to sell themselves out. I believe the truth is very different. Helping […]
About Trust
About Trust Most of us talk about trust in others. It’s known as a cornerstone of committed relationships. The word carries a big psychological and emotional impact, as loaded as the word “love” or “commitment”. Instead of trust being the explosive charge in a broadside complaint or attack (“You can’t be trusted!”), it can become a […]