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Archetypes & Narratives

I was reviewing some literature lately that referred briefly to some traditional Dominant/submissive “archetypes”. The ones mentioned included: Teacher (or Professor)/Student (or Intern), Parent/Child, Captor/Prisoner, and Doctor/Patient. That caused me to think about Narratives, my eight part blog series posted here from 12/19/18 – 7/27/19. Power/authority Archetype is a great word.

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The new fluid bonding

One of the longer term effects of the COVID-19 pandemic will be the social re-arrangement of physical proximity and boundaries, and sex. And similar to a new fluid bonding, we must find ways to manage this safety. It’s at a new and very dangerously different level. The new fluid to

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The Kink Health Survey

It’s an honor (and a true professional learning experience) serving on the development team for the International Kink Health Survey (IHKS), to be released later this year. The sponsoring organization, TASHRA (The Alternative Sexuality Health Research Alliance) produced the first KHS (which was national in scope) in 2016. Superb colleagues

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Eroticism & sex in a time of…

What happens to eroticism and sex in a time of pandemic? Personally experiencing this vulnerability, in which health and life are at stake, doesn’t seem conducive to making love. The higher level of social, personal (indeed, existential) anxiety might temporarily but effectively suffocate the always delicate erotic spirit. A change

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Looking at erotic and relational life

I look at eroticism, sexuality, consensual non-monogamy (CNM) and monogamy. I see and embrace their fluidity. How was it decided to focus on these parts of life? Primary drivers The reason is that relationships and sexuality are primary drivers of personal development (and are therefore “stressful”). They both tap into

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